If You Think You're Enlightened, Go Spend a Week with Your Family
I don’t claim to be enlightened.
But I did just spend a week with my family in Asheville, NC.
This is a great quote from Ram Dass:
If you think you’re enlightened, go spend a week with your family.
I don’t claim to be enlightened. But I did just spend a week with my family in Asheville, NC.
I’m happy to say that it was excellent. Which wouldn’t always have been the case.
My family is very nice. Arguably, too nice. No one gets angry. (Which is actually very unhealthy because the anger gets stuck in our bodies - but that’s a topic for another day.)
I used to feel some resistance to spending an entire week with them. I felt like I couldn’t fully be myself. And I blamed it on other people in the family.
Now I notice that I don’t have any resistance. Even better, I appreciate my family members for who they are - exactly as they are.
I give a lot of credit for this shift to Family Constellations. Constellations help you look at your relationships through the lens of the heart. Things can look very different at this level. From the heart, you see with the eyes of compassion and forgiveness. You see how things really are - and let go of how you want them to be.
As long as you have certain desires about how it ought to be, you can’t see how it is. - Ram Dass (again)
You tap into what’s happening for someone at the soul level. Then your perception of that person completely changes.
For example, in a Constellation, you may see that your brother is repeating your father’s pattern of being a know-it-all (or an alcoholic or depressed or being in lack around money). And that your father was repeating the same pattern from his father.
Or, you may see that you and your siblings are energetically “out of order” (the young one trying to take the place of an older one, for example) - which causes misunderstandings. Maybe there are unborn siblings (abortions or miscarriages) who need to be seen and included.
Constellations expand your heart and your awareness. They help you get unstuck and take your place in your family. 🧡
Two hours to deep transformation. Here’s what Seneca wrote to me after her Constellation:
“It's hard to believe that one session could make such a massive impact, but that issue was affecting pretty much every aspect of my life. The fact that we were essentially able to unwind it in one session is completely amazing. Thank you for this deep work.”