“Thank you, Mom. What you gave me was enough.”

I didn’t have an easy relationship with my mom when I was growing up. She was smart, self-reliant, successful, & organized - and she taught me to be that way too.

But I wanted her to be different - more loving, less critical, more tender.

We all have a set of beliefs of how our mom should be - and if she wasn’t or isn’t that, we judge. Like everyone else, my mom - and yours - was acting from her own wounding and from inherited family wounds.

When we can see that, we can gradually get to a place where we take the love our mom gave us - instead of the love we wanted her to give us.

We can take our mother into our heart - exactly as she was - and it’s immensely liberating.

My Family Constellations teacher, Marina Toledo, taught that our relationship with our mother represents our relationship with life. It becomes the template for what is possible for you in your life.

When we reject our mother, we reject life on a certain level. We may struggle to give, receive or both.

The more you heal your wounding with your mother (and we all have wounding with our moms!) - the more you’ll reconnect with life, with your gifts and with your authentic self.

And you’ll be able to say inwardly, from the heart: “Thank you, Mom. What you gave me was enough.”