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Sisterhood
How to support each other to shine
My friend Julie visited last week. It was the best! Hiking in Taos, exploring Santa Fe, going into medicine ceremony together. But it wasn’t really about what we were doing. It was about the heart connection and feeling joyful to be together.
Connecting in sisterhood is so good when we can draw the power and the medicine out in each other. When we speak our truth and show up as our true selves.
Sadly, our relationships with women aren’t always as nourishing as they should be. Often sisterhood is about holding each other back. There can be competition, jealousy and betrayal.
We’ve been taught that women are not to be trusted. We fear that they might judge us or dislike us if we rise into our power.
We end up unable to connect with other women in joy. We talk instead about our bad luck, mistreatment or dissatisfaction - with our bodies, our finances, our relationships.
We rarely share about how much we love our bodies, our work or anything else in our lives. We don’t want other women to feel bad.
There’s a well-known adage: Where attention goes, energy flows. It’s not helping us to lead with the negative. This binds us to negativity instead of to our potential.
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I believe we all rise higher when we lift each other up! When women are given the opportunity to be seen, heard and held by other women, we can transform our insecurities, wounds and competitive patterns. We reclaim our radiance, unity and feminine power.
Celebrations Practice
Here’s a practice to try with a friend. Share celebrations with each other: something you love, value and are proud of about yourself, your life or your world. You’re finding something RIGHT about yourself, which is the opposite of what we’re trained to do.
This is an opportunity for a new kind of bonding. You’re training yourselves to support each other to shine.
Why do this?
Whatever you focus on grows in your life. The more you acknowledge yourself for what’s going well, the better.
It helps break down the conditioning to relate through pain and what isn’t working. It also breaks up the belief that if you celebrate, other women will feel bad.
A lot of us hide our greatness. The way you get confident is by acknowledging the things that are great about you and are working well.
Part of this process is to pay attention to what comes up for you when your friend celebrates. Maybe a contraction: jealousy or comparison.
Notice if this is a space where you hold yourself back. Or where you want the same thing as her. Or a reflection that you maybe aren’t acknowledging your own greatness.
If you let yourself be as big and shiny as you long to be, you’ll be able to be around other radiant women.
If you’d like to give yourself the gift of being with 2 medicine womben and a group of sisters who truly want to see you get unstuck so that you can be in your highest radiance, there’s still time to join our September Women’s Plant Medicine Retreat.
If you feel that your sisterhood wound (or another unwanted pattern) has its origin in your childhood or in your family lineage, a one-on-one Family Constellation or Womb Constellation can help you get to the root cause and resolve it.